I love wearing grey: blending, cloaking, merging. Subtle, veiling, yet a window to life beneath. Both disguising and revealing. A foil for the complex colours of the soul.
Sultry, smudgy charcoal, wispy, misty smoke. Sharp-glint granite, feather-down nestle dove grey, iridescent mussel pearl. Gauzy-gossamer and ethereal ashes of roses. Addictively, I’m drawn to it. My wardrobe is full of shades of grey; I collect the colour in all its varying hues.
My comfort blanket, handed down from my great grandmother and miraculously free from moth damage, is made from the softest, snuggliest cashmere – a smoky charcoal one side and soft cloud the other. To wrap oneself in its comforting soothingness is pure bliss. And then there’s grey jumper.
I bought grey jumper about twenty years ago for no other reason than it was another grey jumper. Overlarge, a simple block square design, perfect to throw on over anything. It became a staple, not only to me but to the boys too…after a days surfing ‘throw us a jumper mum’; coming in from a cold wet windy day ‘where’s grey jumper?’. A hormonal downer, a rejection or some deep thought-thinking – you’d find them curled up in it. Walking, farming, gardening; holidaying, travelling, drifting…grey jumper would be found stuffed in some nook or cranny.
Over the years it’s often found itself in the pile of clothes to be given away, recycled or bundled to the charity shops only to be snatched back. And every year at the beginning of lambing and calving I find myself rooting around in the bottom of the cupboard. With a contented sigh I pull grey jumper out, slip the well-worn fabric over my head, ready to face whatever lies ahead, secure in my other skin.



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March 30, 2008 at 1:26 am
heidi
Paula, I loved this posting. For me my old gray “sweater” /jumper is like woolen, cozy chainmail. It’s lovely tone of gray never annoys, or clash with my moods. Burn holes, ratty cuffs, armpits with holes, it does not matter= i love it. It is impervious to ale, coffee, dirt and dog drool.
It resists welding sparks, and garden mud with such grace, that I can wear it from shop to pub and not look too dreadful. It always feels just right.
I love that your boys wore yours, a woolen, wearable comfort blanket..
Hail the gray jumper!The day it goes you will be a bit sad I suspect.
March 30, 2008 at 8:37 am
Mopsa
Ashes of roses – I’d never heard the description until I read the Thornbirds- but even so, it was clear as clear what was meant. Isn’t is strange how gray is so often described as a non-colour, that it was the prime descriptor for John Major? What you’ve described is much more warm, comforting, variable, sophisticated. But I hope you take that hanger out BEFORE you put it on!
March 30, 2008 at 7:46 pm
paula
Glad you could relate to this post too, Heidi. I think, though, grey jumper might just be indestructible! Well, here’s hoping…
March 30, 2008 at 8:07 pm
paula
Amazing name. My gran had a frock in ashes of roses which I loved (probably because of the name) – and she looked a perfect picture in it. But however much I desperately want to wear the colour; it drains and makes me look like the living dead.
You know I’ve never read the Thornbirds – something, I can’t remember what, put me off it. Could it have been a drama adaptation?
I suspect grey just showed us JM as he was…don’t you? And those interminable grey days.
I try to, but it does give me nice square shoulders when I’m bowed under by work!
March 31, 2008 at 6:34 am
Jane
I know exactly how you feel about “grey jumper”. I used to have a pair of cotton trousers with great big flowers on them… I wore them to death for years (in the 80s). Also my stripy jumper when I was little (aged 7). Still have it now (just to remember how it felt). Now I have a comfy Musto bought 6 Christmases ago, but still my favourite snugly thing. It just makes me feel safe and comforted. Funny how clothes can do that. Don’t ever throw “grey jumper” away… Jane
April 1, 2008 at 8:48 pm
paula
I promise I never ever will Jane. It’s earmarked for a family heirloom…
April 2, 2008 at 10:29 pm
elizabethm
Just loved this one Paula. I am not sure i have the grey but do have the comfort garment. I think my colour is a very soft grey blue – sky at night, sea in mist, certain flowers and light on water. but cherish your grey jumper, sounds perfect.
April 3, 2008 at 10:14 am
paula
Oh thank you so much elizabethm. Yes I can see your colour perfectly…I’m being strict with myself now and changing out of comfort clothes after doing the animals – I get into a rut after lambing/calving where I seem to be stuck; only at home in comfort clothes or possibly a burka if I have to leave the farm!
Grey jumper feeling most cherished after such positive exposure.